It’s hard enough to look in the mirror and look at the person staring back at you and deciding who that is- if they’re happy and satisfied with their life or if they’re broken down and simply need a change in their everyday routine. But what about the person who you have no idea what they look like, the one that lies years ahead of where you stand today and yet is you just the same? What about them?
Some may ask how you can even have a relationship with someone who doesn’t even exist currently, someone who’s essentially just a figment of our imagination but always slightly more present than we mean them to be. Well, let me tell you, it’s a vital relationship to have, one that should not be ignored just because you can’t see it or conceptualize it.
Everything you do, starting from the day you are born, is done for the person you will one day been. Every decision you make, no matter how small or insignificant it may seem, has affected the person you are today and will affect the person you’ll be in one year, two years, ten years from today, Sure, the good decisions can’t hurt too much, but the bad ones may have detrimental effects to the person you will one day be. It may throw you off the path you thought you were on and put you on a new one you didn’t even realize existed- one that you swear you were never meant to be on. Yet in the end, you put yourself there and you know it.
How do you salvage and strengthen such a relationship? Well, first, you stop trying to understand it, because you never will and trying to will drive you crazy. This relationship you have, this special, precious relationship is yours and only yours and that’s all you really have to know. It’s important to know that you’re the only person who can mess with it, so make sure you keep that power to yourself, because no one else deserves it.
Another important thing you need to remember is that you must love and treasure yourself today because everything that happens to you right now will forever impact everything that happens to you in the future. You’ll be a new person and perhaps you think that means your past mistakes won’t hurt you, but they’ll always be there. So do yourself a favor: forgive them even though they don’t deserve it, leave them even though they tell you they love you, and find yourself even though it’s scary. And don’t ever do this for anyone else. Never. All of this, this must be done for you, for your beautiful, broken, special and unique soul, because it’ll always be there with you, so might as well keep it warm and take time to stitch it back up.
Remember- smile a little more and cry a little less, appreciate a little harder and frown a little less, and do it all for yourself, and for the amazing person you’ve promised yourself you’ll one day grow to be.